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Obstacle # 4: “There’s nothing I don’t know”. Some people feel the need to project an image that they know everything and are good at everything. They worry that saying “I don’t know” will make them look incompetent and stupid. Being an “all-powerful” person ruins the conversation because you’re sending the message that it doesn’t matter to you what other people think or feel. This cuts off the flow of information, thoughts, and feelings and simply elevates yourself into a position of leadership.<\/p>
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So, say “I don’t know”. This will make the other person respect you for your honesty instead of belittling your ignorance.<\/p>
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Suppose someone mentions a book, a movie or a star and you nod knowingly as if you know what he’s talking about. It’s likely that later on (probably many times) it will come out that you’re not familiar with the subject, and you may give the impression that you’re just dealing with the conversation. This will affect the conversation. This will leave a bad impression on the other person. He no longer trusts you in subsequent conversations. To avoid projecting a false image, acknowledge your weakness, lack of experience, or ignorance about a particular topic and seek a response. In most cases (unless the other person is trying to despise you), they will be understanding. This presents a balanced you and easily creates a more reliable personal image.<\/p>
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Obstacle 5: “I’m bored.” Some people always shy away from conversation. They don’t think they’re interested in having a conversation. It’s avoidance and self-deception. Avoidance is a way to avoid facing people, situations and problems. People who are afraid to disturb others or don’t make the effort to talk can’t really give themselves a chance.<\/p>
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Forgive yourself. If your inner voice keeps saying, “No one is going to be interested in what I have to say,” then you’re being too hard on yourself. Of course, people can’t read your mind, but they’ll often interpret your silence as a sign of boredom, lack of interest, and a desire to get the conversation over with as soon as possible. This is likely to leave a bad impression on others. Focus on the positive events in your life — the events or experiences you’ve been excited about — and the things you’re passionate about.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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