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If you feel the other person needs encouragement to speak up, try saying something like, “You’ve been quiet tonight. Is anything bothering you?” “You look as if something is wrong with you. What are you thinking?” ‘Is there anything you want to say to me? If the other person doesn’t respond, don’t push him too hard.<\/p>
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Encourage and give positive feedback, not criticism. While there is still room for improvement, first praise people for their positive efforts. You really have to think of something good to praise. It is also important not to praise and criticize others in the same sentence. Praise the person when praise is due, and acknowledge the effort to get the job done. For example, to a child who has delayed completing an assignment, “I’m really happy to see you finished your homework. It takes time to write such a good report.” Then correct late assignments by saying something like, “Do you think you can finish the assigned work on time next time? By encouraging the child with positive praise and then asking questions in a suggested way,”<\/p>
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Rejection is a test of your confidence. Sometimes, people say no to see how others react under pressure. If you react in a defensive way, your sensitive spots are likely to get hit. If you laugh at yourself and don’t take rejection too seriously, others will see you as confident and reliable.<\/p>
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If someone’s criticism of you is valid, don’t cover it up with words like “but,” “nevertheless,” “however,” and “still.” Instead, tell him, “Maybe you’re right! What should I do?<\/p>
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The best way to get what you want to know is to ask him directly. Most people prefer to be asked directly for something or to do something. Some people don’t like your indirect requests, so if you want to get something out of them, it’s best to be clear and direct.” We all want others to know what we think, feel, and think. These people make oblique requests in the hope that others will guess what they are asking for. Since implicit requests are often ignored and misunderstood, it’s best to ask directly.<\/p>
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When someone makes an implicit request, you need to understand what he wants you to do. Say something like, “You didn’t say it directly, but you wanted me to\u2026 ?” This will avoid future misunderstandings.<\/p>
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Let the world know you are who you are, no matter what you are supposed to be — if you pretend, sooner or later you will stop, what will you do then?<\/p>
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When you start a conversation, keep these talking points in mind.<\/p>
1.Say hello first.<\/p>
2.Introduce yourself to others.<\/p>
3.Take risks and don’t be afraid to say no.<\/p>
4.Show your sense of humor.<\/p>
5.Be open to new ideas.<\/p>
6.Try your best to remember names.<\/p>
7.If you can’t remember someone’s name, ask again.<\/p>
8.Show curiosity and interest in others.<\/p>
9.Tell other people about important events in your life.<\/p>
10.Tell people how you are.<\/p>
11.Retell their points in other ways that make you sound like a good listener.<\/p>
12.Be passionate about what’s exciting in your life with the people you meet.<\/p>
13.Get out of your life and make new friends.<\/p>
14.Recognize the other person’s personality.<\/p>
15.Show your sense of humor when talking to other people.<\/p>
16.Tell people in short sentences what you are doing.<\/p>
17.When someone forgets your name, reintroduce yourself.<\/p>
18.Tell others about something interesting and challenging that you did.<\/p>
19.Be alert to open and closed body language.<\/p>
20.When you talk to someone for the first time, use eye contact and smile.<\/p>
21.Say hello to people you often see.<\/p>
22.Among the people you know, look for common interests, goals, and experiences.<\/p>
23.Help others as much as you can.<\/p>
24.Let others do the talking.<\/p>
25.Give direct answers to common courtesy questions.<\/p>
26.Respond enthusiastically to the other person’s interests.<\/p>
27.Balance the amount of information you exchange with each other.<\/p>
28.Able to talk about a wide range of topics.<\/p>
29.Stay aware of current issues and events that affect all people’s lives.<\/p>
30.Be open and listen to other people’s thoughts and feelings.<\/p>
31.Express your feelings, opinions, and emotions to others.<\/p>
32.When talking about personal matters, use “I” and express how you feel.<\/p>
33.Don’t use “you” when you mean “I”.<\/p>
34.Make the person you’re talking to feel like you want to talk to them.<\/p>
35.Invite people to join you for dinner, social events or other networking events.<\/p>
36.Keep in touch with friends and acquaintances.<\/p>
37.Ask for other people’s opinion.<\/p>
38.Look for positive people you meet.<\/p>
39.Start and end your conversation with a name, a handshake, or a warm greeting.<\/p>
40.Take the time to have a thoughtful conversation with your neighbors and co-workers.<\/p>
41.Let the other person feel like you want to know more about them.<\/p>
42.Ask the other person what he or she told you in the last conversation.<\/p>
43.Listen carefully for clues in what others are saying.<\/p>
44.If there are people who don’t share your beliefs, tolerate them.<\/p>
45.If you’ve had enough to say about a topic, change the conversation.<\/p>
46.Always search out other people’s interests.<\/p>
47.Compliment people on what they are wearing, doing or saying.<\/p>
48.Send acceptance signals to encourage others to communicate with you.<\/p>
49.Try to talk to people you like and have fun with.<\/p>
50.As you tell your story, state the main idea first, followed by the details that support your argument.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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